Wednesday, August 23, 2006

"The lack of self-esteem produces more symptoms of psychiatric disorders than any other factor yet identified."-Dr. James Dobson

* A mid-life crisis is an emotional state of doubt and anxiety in which a person becomes uncomfortable with the realization that life is halfway over. It commonly involves reflection on what the individual has done with his life up to that point, often with feelings that not enough was accomplished. The individual may feel boredom with their lives, jobs, or their partners, and may feel a strong desire to make changes in these areas. ...

Midlife Crisis

'Midlife Crisis' is something that happens to many of us at some point during our lives (usually, at about 40, give or take 20 years).

Midlife Crisis is a natural process (first identified by the psychologist Carl Jung) and it is a normal part of 'maturing'. However, Midlife Crisis can sometimes feel very uncomfortable, and cause people to seek psychotherapy or counselling, or to make radical lifestyle changes that can be very damaging and are regretted later.

It can help to view Midlife Crisis from the perspective of differing personality types, as this will give you a greater understanding of what is happening.

If you are going through midlife crisis, you might experience a wide range of feelings, such as:

* Discontent with life and/or the lifestyle that may have provided happiness for many years
* Boredom with things/people that have hitherto held great interest and dominated your life
* Feeling adventurous and wanting to do something completely different
* Questioning the meaning of life, and the validity of decisions clearly and easily made years before
* Confusion about who you are, or where your life is going.
These feelings at mid-life can occur naturally, or they can be brought on by external factors.

One external factor can be debt. The availability of credit has become easier in recent years, through credit cards and telephone/internet loans. This has made it easier to accumulate debt, and many people turn to debt consolidation or debt management services in order to find their way out of difficulty.

Another external factor can be a bereavement, such as the death of a parent - or other significant loss or change, such as redundancy or divorce. These things can cause significant grief which can be difficult enough to come to terms with on their own. But if they are compounded by the natural process of 'mid-life transition' this can make the whole process of adjustment bewildering and overwhelming.

However, even in the absence of difficult external circumstances, there is still an internal process of change that takes place during midlife. If you don't understand that process it can feel like a 'crisis' and as you attempt to come to terms with it, you may find yourself making poor or irrational decisions that you regret at a later date - eg: leaving your job or spouse and throwing away the security that you have built up in the first part of your adult life.


Blogger Arabiana Banana said...

I still believe that it's all in one's head. and that the way you look at things can turn the situation around 360 degrees. But I also acknowledge that some people simply can't look at things with a different eye. sighhhh after all, if they could then what are valiums and shrinks for right?- i meant that in a good way. tc

7:35 PM  
Blogger IonFluxh said...

everyone is different. one man's power is another man's kryptonite. its up to a person to respect that.

7:37 PM  
Blogger Arabiana Banana said...

yes that's true. but friends don't enjoy.. standing by and watching their friends destruction. whgat u said only applies on less- than friends. K is here and that bit was from her. We don't know what friendship is to you. But we know what it is to us and we are always here for you.

7:34 AM  
Blogger IonFluxh said...

believe me its gonna be worse if outside factors meddle, there is such a thing as "taking a time off", i dont know what that is to you but for me its a defense mechanism to avoid having things go from bad to worse. if you dont understand that please dont reply.

9:05 AM  

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